cupcakes and mistakes

Oh Duante Diallo, where you are now? Because then you were tormenting Mindy for being a fat kid. Let’s back up to the beginning thought. Duante moved to Boston to play basketball for Mindy’s school at the start of high school. Even with his duties on the court, he found time to torment Mindy, once referring to her as a whale. To make sure her weight was never the punchline again, Mindy went on a diet and shed 30lbs over the winter break doing nothing but cutting her portions in half and skipping desert. Fast forward to the end and Duante broke his leg, never fully recovered, dropped out and may’ve become a baby daddy. And well Mindy, you can say she’s doing okay for herself.

Bullies are the worst thing you can deal with in school. Imagine having that fear looming over your head each morning as you got ready for school. There isn’t a kid past or present who hasn’t had to deal with a bully in their life. Even bullies get bullied. Don’t think they’re that way for no reason. Maybe their bully is at home. You just never know. Anyways, I did have a bully in elementary school and if I had a yearbook from then, I’d look her up and write to her about the hell she caused me.

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Basically Mindy was raised to respect her elders, that’s what her parents believed to be right, so that is what she grew up believing. It wasn’t until later that she figured her parents didn’t expect that sometimes older didn’t necessarily mean wiser, so why treat them any better?

It’s simple in my world; treat others how you’d like to be treated and if someone treats you like shit for no reason, don’t give them a second thought. Every situation is different and there’s no real set rules you can follow on this one; play it by ear.

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We’re all familiar with the “freshman 15,” the weight you pack on your first year away from home during college. You stress eat because the curriculum, or the fear of being away from mom, or because it’s the first time in your life you can choose to eat frosting for every meal. Well, Mindy must’ve chosen that meal plan because she admits that she was an over achiever and gained the freshman 35 and just slightly horrified her parents. She then took to exercising for the first time and dropped 30lbs in one semester in 1999. Thanks to her new found friend Brenda, Mindy got used to walking, then running and then Abs of Steelsessions.

It’s a widely known fact that I don’t notice when people around me loose or gain weight unless I see a before and after photo and thanks to shit like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and carrier pigeon (that an app yet?), I see the weight loss journey of everyone and their mom, literally. So what about myself? I only notice weight gained or lost based on my clothes. Do my 13s fit a little snug, must’ve gained. Oh, by flannels are too big now, must’ve lost. But back in college, I’d say I was a little bigger just because I can fit into a large at Forever 21 and never in my life would I have thought anything in that store besides the socks would fit me, and even then…those were a stretch. Did I set out to lose weight? Not really, I just walk a lot and I think I mentioned this yesterday – but I don’t drive and if you ever wanted to tone your legs, ditch the car. I also have made it my goal this year to do at least one real push up, so my German friend sent me arm exercises. I am nowhere near reaching that goal. I have hope since it’s only June.

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